What are you gonna tell your kids when you grow up? You need to live life to its fullest extent. You’re probably in your prime right now, you’re young, you can make as many mistakes as you want as long as you learn from them.

You need to be out there making memories.

You need to be out there experiencing things, don’t worry about right or wrong as long as things are in moderation.

You need to build a life but you also need to live. Your 20s are for fucking around and finding out.

Go on that trek, get lost in the woods, have a beer with a friend, sneak out at 2 am, laugh about dumb things, fall in love, maybe even go through a near death experience.

I’ve done all of these things since I’ve come to college, I have been living life while building my career and also doing things that will make my parents proud (apart from the obvious stuff that they can’t know about haha)

I feel really bad for those that are wasting the golden years of their lives by sitting at home all day, being shy to make moves and being afraid to judgement. People are gonna judge you anyway, people get judged for doing right and wrong both. You’ll get judged for smoking, you’ll also get judged for being a nerd, there’s no end to the criticism. So why not live the way you want to?

I recently got lost in the woods at night, it was really dark and it started raining heavily. We couldn’t figure out where we entered the trail from. It was a scary experience for everyone there, except me. Deep in my heart I knew I’m going to make it out alive, and it’s gonna be a hell of a story. I still remember the adrenaline coursing through my veins, the excitement in my mind and the soreness in my legs. Core memory.

To do these things, you have to get out of your home, you need to have the courage to move ahead in life despite whatever is going on in your life.

Staying home all day creates a negative environment for your brain, it starts brewing depressive thoughts that will trap you into a loop which will be very hard to get out of. You sit at home and pray for miracles, but god can only steer the wheel, who’s going to press on the pedal?

You need to flow, you need to be like a river, you must keep propelling forward in life, there’s always something better waiting for you in the future as long as you have hope. If you think negative things, expect negativity in your life, don’t be surprise when God gives you what you ask for.

I randomly just went on a 10 km ride, on a hill at 1 am, had fun, it rained in between and I wasn’t prepared, felt the cold wind hitting my face and everything felt alright. Wherever there are spontaneous plans, count me in. I’ve gone to a beach at 3 am with 2 other people on one scooter, I’ve snuck out of my home at 3 am for a ride with my friends, bunked college to go jump in a waterfall, all of it was spontaneous, none of the good memories were planned. It gives me a kick, I love the thrill, the adrenaline, the thought of not knowing what’s gonna happen next is what keeps me rolling.

There’s also a lot of dumb stuff I’ve done, but they just made me a better person, gave me more lessons, more experience, and the most important, memories. Everything that I do is for the lore, and the universe loves it when you’re enjoying life, you get rewarded with more by doing more and giving it your all. It’s very magnetic to enjoy life.

Depression hates a moving target, but that doesn’t mean you avoid your feelings. Always process whatever you’re going through, understand that everything is an experience and nothing is meant to stay in your life forever. The faster you move on, the better. God will take away people, things, money, opportunities to teach you things, and once you’re done learning your lesson, he will give you things that you couldn’t even think of.

Don’t sit home and miss out on life, there’s so much to do out there. Punishing yourself and staying in guilt won’t help, the faster you move on from things, the better things get. You’re supposed to keep looking ahead, it’s fine to peak in the rear view mirror once in a while but you’ll never live life properly if you keep living backward, forget the bad things, erase them from your head and start fresh, fortune favors the bold.

And amidst it all, don’t forget to smile.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit.

Doesn’t it?

The guy that has the balls to act, the woman who decides to stand up for herself, the person that finally decides to change their life, the junkie that decides to quit.

All of these are acts of bravery, an act of boldness. Your fortune changes according to how brave you are. Your bravery determines your future.

It’s a signal to the universe that you’re willing to become an entirely different person now, it shows that you’re willing to grow.

The world has no other option but to give you what you ask for.

Whatever you ask for, you shall receive.

Whatever that you’ve received is basically a prior manifestation just sprouting. The seed was already planted, you just didn’t know it.

Everything that you see around you is a projection of your thoughts, emotions and feelings. The world is nothing but a projection of your consciousness. We’re all one, it’s our perspective and thoughts that shape us into a unique being.

The universe rewards bravery, God loves to see people try.

You not trying basically gives a signal to the world that you don’t want it bad enough. But there’s a twist, whatever you do, must be done without attachment to the outcome.

You shouldn’t pray just to receive blessings, that isn’t called praying, that’s called a business transaction.

When was the last time you did something without being attached to the outcome? When was the last time you studied without thinking about the grade you’re going to receive? Would you still give it your 100% if you knew that you might not get a good grade? Wouldn’t you wanna study just for the knowledge?

The universe rewards those that have no attachment to the outcome and continue doing things just for the love of the game. I play football not to win but because it makes me feel complete, winning is a part of the game, but so is losing.

Why not just enjoy the game without thinking about losing or winning? If you do this, you end up winning most of the time. And even if you lose, there’s no disappointment, you’re still content, you’re still sane, and it’s just considered an experience.

At the end of the day, everything is an experience.

The person that you didn’t think you would lose, the exam you thought you’d pass, the failures, the wins, the memories with your best friend, all of it is an experience that shapes you in a better human being.

Being attached to things only brings sorrow, hurt and disappointment. The more detached you are, the more you can enjoy these experiences.

Be like water, keep flowing.

Being stagnant creates room for negativity.

You keep growing with these experiences. Attaching your ego to these experiences is what brings pain, why not just let it pass like a cloud? Why not just enjoy it for the time being?

Everything around you is temporary, everything has an expiration date. The people, the materialistic things, the environment you’re in. Everything has to change, or else you’ll become a stagnant water body.

So why not just embrace it?

To make room for new clothes, you must empty out your closet. You cannot stuff in everything together. You have to let go of your old jacket to make room for the new sweater, the jacket might have been very soft and it must’ve been your favorite, but now it’s time to let go. It’s time to enjoy the warmth of the new sweater.

Be brave, stay bold.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit.

I’m always criticized for cutting of mediocre people too quickly. They say I’m too rude, just for saying the truth out loud. But that is the only right way to do it. You cut of the arm before the infection spreads to your body. And unfortunately, 99% of the people don’t change so the best option is to severe the bond.

All of them are thinking about saying it, and I’m the one who says it out loud without any fear of the repercussions because I’m not afraid. If you can’t say it, I understand, but don’t hate those who have the balls to voice their opinions.

The hypocrisy I witness on a day to day basis is honestly surprising. I see people talking shit about someone and then 3 hours later they’re hanging out with them and having the time of their lives, how are you this performative?

I’ve survived all the forms of toxicity you can think of. A manipulative ex, the toxic friend group that eventually splits, bad influence and whatever else that comes in between.

And now that I’ve seen most of it, (I know there is more to come lol), I understand people better than I ever have. I can see through lies, I know when I’m being played, I know what people intend to do despite their words being soft and nice. I’ve found a way to sense it all, you could call it pattern recognition.

This has become a game to me.

I understand the mechanics finally, after losing so much.

Fortunately I led the path of being morally right after figuring out what I was surrounded by and never became like them despite having multiple occasions to do so. There were plenty of crossroads that I came across that could eventually turn me into a person that I didn’t wanna become.

I truly understand the quote “hurt people hurt people”

I honestly see all of this as a blessing and maybe there’s still a part of me that hates that this happened and wanted a more peaceful childhood.

But at the same time I’m glad it happened because now I can tackle these situations very well while watching those around me still figure out how the basics work.

And this sight that I have, to decipher intentions, doesn’t just come from experience, it also comes from studying history, behavioral psychology and self analyzation.

In my opinion, the worst thing you can do is commit the act of treachery.

Once you betray someone, that includes yourself too, it leaves a permanent mark on your soul.

Your entire body, you consciousness classifies you as a traitor. And you continue to perform the heinous act despite just to normalize it. You end up hanging around with people that do the same.

That is why I tell my friends to not hang out with people that have betrayed before. They will do it to you too.

You don’t need to hold the scorpion to see whether it stings or not. History tells you that the scorpion will sting no matter how much love you provide.

If you get stung despite knowing this fact then you’re dumb. You can’t say “I’m nice to them because they haven’t done anything to me”, is the same as hanging out with a murderer because they haven’t done it to the people you love or you.

This is hypocrisy. And cowardice.

Seeing how people treat the ones they don’t need in their lives, such as waiters, colleagues or acquaintances that won’t affect anything, shows a lot about them.

They have to be nice in front of you because they need you for the time being. Once your purpose is over, you’ll be thrown out like a ragged cloth.

It is better to die from dehydration than to drink poison. I’d live a life full of solitude rather than sitting at a table full of snakes.

There is strength in being truthful.

Being truthful to yourself and to other people will take you very far in life.

And you’ll sleep better.

I really miss my friends, the ones I could be myself with. I didn’t have to care about this around them, but living in a different city makes it hard to talk to them, we all are busy with our lives and me not being on social media makes it even harder. But it is worth it when I meet them again after ages. The bond only grows, there’s no decline in true brotherhood.

Do not mistake this article as a complain, I only wish to highlight something that I have been going through on a day to day basis and have accepted that this is how it will always be, just wanted to say something about it.

Be not afraid.

Praise God.

The moments are much more unique and I feel that there is more space for growth as an individual, growth in mindsets, discovering new opinions and much more. I just can’t be the person to get stuck in a routine, being disciplined and being in a routine can be considered two different things to be honest.

I am disciplined, but never in a routine. A routine will always feel mundane to me, like I’m repeating the same thing over and over in the same manner for countless years. You miss out on so much opportunity this way, of course this is purely my opinion and no offence to those who actually enjoy routines, or maybe do take a little offence, I don’t care.

Spontaneous decisions and plans have the thrill factor. You finally feel alive, randomly going out at 3 am to dance near a lake with your friends will always be better than setting an alarm for the next morning and sleeping in.

You’re young, go live out your life.

I’m not saying don’t have a goal, neither am I asking you to be lazy and do whatever you want. But do the things necessary to build your life while maintaining a world outside of it too. You can’t live in the same bubble for your entire life, what are you gonna tell your kids? Where’s the dad lore? the mom lore? Are you gonna tell them that you slept in by 11pm and did the same boring thing all day?

Could never be me.

Doing what needs to be done is equally important.

Going to the gym, finishing your work, doing your chores, pursuing your hobby, practicing a new skill and hyperfixating on a new topic that you just discovered 10 minutes ago.

You need to understand the difference between living your life and destroying your future. Lore needs to be created, but there needs to be something that you must commit to and it is usually the mundane tasks we shy away from.

The key is balance, being smart about your time will get you further ahead than 99% of the people you’re surrounded by.

After you watch the Matrix, you understand that everything around you is just like a simulation, a game. You don’t even know if what you’re experiencing is real, there is no answer to this, but we live despite that. Most of us don’t even know that this veil exists.

They’re so busy living their pointless lives that they forget about the actual purpose. The purpose is to have fun while living your dream life, which requires dumb decisions, calculated risks and a shitload of discipline.

The goal is to have fun while also completing the tasks that are meant to be completed, despite the circumstances. You cannot sit at your desk all day and expect life to reward you with other things as well.

You need to try and maximize all your stats, just like a video game. If you focus just on one part, the other parts start getting weaker and the person who’s been growing them all together will eventually surpass you. Intelligence doesn’t just come from sitting at your desk all day and reading a textbook, it also comes from working out, sleeping properly, taking walks. All these things enhance your brain’s capacity, enabling you to work harder and focus better.

Go out there, watch the sunsets, make dumb decisions, fuck up, get into trouble. That’s what builds character. And most importantly, have fun, that’s what it’s all about.

Have faith,

Praise God.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit.

This applies to the common mass.

There’s another group of people,

The one that thrives in solitude.

That functions at their peak without the mundane bullshit conversations that are so prevalent amongst the fakes and gossipers.

I’ve distanced myself from way too many people, can’t even count them on my fingers. I now know when to cut someone off before things start getting worse.

Some people say that its very harsh, to treat them as if they’re dead but even the bare minimum still makes their energy linger around in your life, and energy has an influence on your thoughts and actions.

There’s no point watering a dead plant, why do it even as a formality? The people that I once trusted the most are now the ones that I cross by in corridors without even making eye contact.

I checked my pockets for fucks to give, unfortunately they were empty.

The moment I learn that a person can betray me anytime, even if there’s a small possibility, they gotta go. There’s no room for people in my life that cannot maintain integrity and offer loyalty.

Loyalty is the most important virtue you can possess in terms of relationships. It is such an attractive thing and I cannot emphasize upon its importance.

I only have great confidence in a few friends of mine because I have seen their loyalty towards me, but it is a two way street. You cannot expect it if you yourself do not offer it.

And day by day its getting harder to find people who have this great virtue. People have become performers, they go where its convenient to be, where its easy.

Relationships and friendships require a lot of effort, as I said, it is a two way street. It always takes two to tango.

The moment I see a performer, I just know they’re not even worth speaking to. I cannot surround myself around people that do not have the courage to be their truest self. Their energy is low and negative, it bothers my nervous system honestly.

I can feel when a person is lying and when they aren’t, I just know it. And that is why I am quick to jump on conclusions. I’ve been told that I should at least hold a bare minimum relationship with someone that I once used to be best friends with but there’s no need honestly, what’s the point?

People have become mediocre, they lead mundane lives filled with hedonistic approaches. Your habits in private shows up in public, it shows up as your personality, behavior and everything else in between.

Never be afraid to cut people off, don’t care about the judgement. The people who judge are losers anyway, why would you care about the opinions of a loser, a person who can barely stand up for themselves? It’s never too harsh, there is no room for disloyalty and disrespect. There’s no expiry date on disrespect, if they can do it once, they’ll do it again, because people barely change, only some do. So if you keep someone despite seeing their intentions and actions, be prepared to deal with the consequences.

A scorpion only knows how to sting, you cannot treat it with love and care and expect it to stay calm. When the time comes, it’ll strike.

But this usually comes with a lot of solitude, 99% of the time you’re only with yourself. It is honestly much more peaceful than dealing with performers, they’re energy vampires. They will leave you tired and stressed, why not use that energy elsewhere. The moment you start thinking in terms of energy, you’ll understand everything.

Reject mediocrity, don’t be afraid of solitude. It is better to stay thirsty than to consume poison, have patience.

Have faith,

Praise God.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit Jhamtani

Your habits show up as a part of your personality. A persons ignorance shows what he does in his free time, a person who listens really well, talks with respect and intelligence doesn’t just inherit it, it’s built when you’re all alone.

Who you are behind closed doors holds a lot of importance in your life, don’t neglect it.

A truly happy person is the most disciplined human you’ll ever meet. Discipline is the highest form of self love.

Only a disciplined person is truly free, everyone else is just a slave to their emotions and impulses.

Your body language, posture, speaking habits, general habits all curate a subconscious mental image in others’ heads. Simple things like standing before shaking someone’s hand talks more about your personality than your words ever could.

I’ll be turning 20 soon, and the most important thing that I have learned is that words hold no power at all relative to your actions. Most people say something else and do something else, they’re contradictory, that’s how you can spot mentally weak people, you shouldn’t keep such people around you because their habits slowly start rubbing off on you.

A person with a disciplined and hard working friend is more likely to succeed compared to the one living with a deadbeat who sits all day and does nothing about his life while liking all the motivational posts they come across.

They might be a good friend to you but with time you’ll realize that it creates a negative environment for you.

Cotton cannot grow in any other soil except black soil ( I think ), it’s environment decides whether it grows or not. You might have the sprouting power within you, but the people around you determine what path you’re going to lead.

You’re more likely to gossip around people who do it without remorse and as if it’s a normal thing, they justify it by saying that it’s a fun way to spend time with friends and a little gossip never hurt anybody. It is a great sin, you can read any holy book from any religion you come across and it is considered a major sin.

So why be around such people?

What is the need to please their egos, leave them be, once you leave toxic situations and tables, you understand how important it is to have the right set of friends.

Your friends should push you to do better, they shouldn’t be guiding you into the dark with them. If I ever tried skipping the gym, my friend would pull me with him and eventually I’d agree to go but if you’re with an undisciplined person, they’ll agree with you and you’ll miss your workout.

That is the difference, a good friend can completely change your life around.

People do not self reflect anymore, they go on to live their mundane lives while chasing bits and pieces of hedonistic happiness, quick dopamine spikes, so on and so forth.

I’ve broken countless friendships because of this, their ignorance would genuinely haunt me.

They’re more likely to betray me if they can’t even live up to their own word. They would betray themselves within a second, so why won’t they do it to me?

You have to stay safe from such people, even if they’re your friends, you must try to tell them and hope that they change, or simple outgrow them.

Internal reflection can genuinely change your life, it shapes you into a better human being. You think better, you feel more and you become empathetic. Why wouldn’t you wanna do it?

It does take a lot of effort though, you have to pick out on your own mistakes, which people cannot do anymore because they’re so self absorbed and their egos are higher than the mount everest, spotting their own mistakes would cause immediate death.

After you read this, I hope you reflect on your personality and who you are as a person, learn more about yourself. Start loving yourself more, and spread as much love as you can into the world.

Have faith,

With love and gratitude,
Harshit

I started finding 90% of the movies to be a waste of my time, to sit there and be lost in a world where I lose track of time and my lower back starts throwing a fit. I only find some to be worth my time, something that would inspire me to become a good human being, to become stronger and kinder, something that would open up a new perspective in my head.

But most of it now is that same old mundane story, with a LOT of porn involved and it kind of fits into the hedonistic path. The stories are repetitive and the target audience is the 5-10 year old age group, and of course most people are still 5 years old in their heads.

But today I stumbled across a movie called Saving Private Ryan, I don’t know how many of you have heard it or watched it, but it made me understand the true nature of war, the depiction of it couldn’t have been more raw and whatever we see on screen nowadays about war is mostly bullshit, it’s just a lot of drama with special effects.

It’s not easy being a solider, watching your teammates die in front of your eyes, maybe you knew them personally or maybe you didn’t but they were still a part of your squad. 10 minutes ago you were discussing about your dreams and now they’re lying dead in your arms, life can be really fragile.

I sometimes imagine myself in these situations.

What would I do if I were in their place?

Now if this question was raised in a class of 30, 25 would say that there is no point thinking about it because it’s never going to happen.

The latter part is true, but that doesn’t mean you can’t think about it, it makes you an empathetic person, it helps you learn more about yourself.

Races, ethnicities, groups, communities, are just social barriers that prevent us from truly connecting with someone. At our cores, we’re all human beings, but we’ve been told otherwise.

This movie genuinely touched my heart. This is the perfect representation of war, the brutality, the brotherhood and everything else in between.

My perspective about soldiers has truly changed. There is loss of life but at the same time you have to wonder about the family that’s waiting for them at home, wondering whether their brother, father or mother is safe, whether they’re alive or not. This inhumane act to preserve humanity is sometimes seen as necessary but the lives that are lost because of an ego clash between two political parties is nothing but a waste.

Who decided that one person gets to sit at home and the other has to be out there in the field fighting for their lives, is it really patriotism? Was it ever necessary in the first place? These are all really big debatable questions that will never have an exact answer, it’ll range from one end of the spectrum to another.

This is what a movie should do to you, it should change the way you think, make you more creative and appreciate this gift that you have.

We’re really blessed, we don’t have to survive out there in the battlefield while scavenging for food and living on 2 hours of sleep. We have all the basic necessities in the world, everything has been handed to us on a silver platter and yet we still complain.

Imagine crying about your bullshit problems in front of a soldier that watched his best friend die right in front of him, or explain it to a mother that lost her kid. All of your problems will shrink down to the size of a pea when you understand how blessed you are. We should be better human beings, we should be more grateful about the things we have. Yet we decide to focus on what we don’t have and cry about it to God.

What a great generation.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit Jhamtani.

I don’t think any of us really think about it truly, we all go on with our mundane lives led by distraction, chasing the next best thing that we see online and all our work is then devoted to getting that one thing that’ll be sitting in the corner of the room once your 1 week obsession with it ends.

We all fall into the traps of consumerism, the material life seems super appealing, you start noticing what watches people wear, their shoes, the brands they like and everything that social media wants us to see. The more you talk and think about these things, the greater the void becomes inside. Wee slowly get sucked into a hedonistic approach towards life.

We start attaching ourselves to the materialistic things around us, although money is super important and I don’t disregard its need in our lives, my focus is on materialism and not earning. Financial stability will take away 90% of your problems, but no amount of cash will solve that 10%, and solving the latter will take up more energy than the former.

Our acts are starting to become performative.

We’ve stopped living for ourselves, our primary focus has been impressing others.

Since when do we care about outer perception? What good is it gonna do? I wonder about these questions a lot but never seem to find a logical answer to it, it’s all completely bullshit.

Inner peace, resilience, grit, will power and kindness is the real key to our souls, that’s what we lack. As a society, we lack compassion for each other.

Most of the people around us work according to their convenience, they’ll fit themselves in boxes that feel more comfortable, and if the box starts wearing out and becoming uncomfortable, they jump over to the next one like fleas do, what different are you from an insect if you keep jumping from one place to another?

I will never have respect for someone who does that, who keeps fleeing from one place because they can’t act like adults and handle a proper relationship.

Coming back to consumerism, I have a bad habit of spiraling, the things you own end up owning you. This is a quote from Fight Club, one of my favorite movies that predicted this downfall of humanity and everyone succumbing themselves to consumerism back in 1999. The movie happens to be 26 years old (considering the actual date of the movie) but they already knew where humanity was headed.

This is a mental war that has been waged against us. It’s a spiritual war, your potential is at risk.

When I see the people around me giving into consumerism culture, it genuinely makes me sad.

As humans we’re meant to do greater things in life and limiting ourselves to this ruins the potential within us, all of us have this seed in our mind that can sprout into a tree of divine wisdom, yet we give up on that for temporary pleasure, how paradoxical.

We’ve been given the ability to mine gold but we sell the axe and use that to buy food for a day because we can’t handle those monkey impulses of ours and start acting like 2 year old children that have just been given a chocolate bar in hand, please grow the fuck up. Mediocrity pisses me off more than anything in this world.

Everyone’s hell bent on buying a new iPhone because of the way it “feels”, even if their phone works perfectly well and they’re able to execute their needs without any obstacles in their way, they’ll still buy the latest one just because they “wanted” it, are you 12?

In some circumstances it’s understandable and I won’t ever demean anyone who has used their hard earned money to buy something they’ve wanted and if they actually deserved it. We’ve forgotten the art of living minimally, 99% of the time we buy things to impress others or maybe because we feel left out because of what the people around us have.

Enjoy it, don’t get attached to it. The more you let go, the more you receive.

A girl that sees a diamond bracelet on a persons arm will wish that she had it, but in that process she forgets to be grateful for the gold necklace around her neck. The lack of gratitude gives a path for the negative emotions to sprout, jealousy and possessiveness starts to set in, you keep start looking out for the next better thing while forgetting that you’re living your dream, you’re in that reality that you once prayed for.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t strive for better, but in that process don’t forget to be grateful for what you actually have. The moment you feel like you need something, you start succumbing to this culture. It’s totally okay to want things or else you’ll stay in the same place forever.

But obsessing over it? That shit will kill you.

I leave the rest for you to think about, I’ve planted the seed in your head if you’ve truly read it, it’ll sprout if you water it enough.

What if you used this energy to cultivate your relationships? What if you spent this time talking to a friend of yours and making sure that they’re okay? Instead of sending a reel to them, maybe call them and ask them how they are.

It makes a difference, conscious effort makes a really big difference in our lives and don’t worry about the reciprocation, let the laws of nature handle that part, you do yours.

Praise God,

With love and gratitude,
Harshit Jhamtani.

It does seem harsh, cutting people off because of a few mistakes they made, but it also depends on the intensity of the mistake they’re making, their intentions behind the mistake and what their thought process was. Once you start understanding things like this it makes it clear whether that person should be in your life or not.

I’m heavily criticized by the people around me because I cut people off instantly, what they don’t know is that I’ve assessed everything I could, saw cues that they missed and then carefully decided whether that person needs to stay in my life or not, but to them it looks like an impulsive decision and I can’t blame them for that because they can’t see things the way I do because I’ve been learning all of this since a long time.

In my free time I would study human psychology and behavior, watch thousands of informational podcasts, read books, journal, meditate and do so many more things that helped me become the person I am today while they sat on their phones and laughed at dumb brainrot clips on Instagram, so is it my fault that I saw all of this before you? I sometimes wonder when people will grow up.

I’ve also noticed one thing, the one thing that pisses people off the most is authenticity. It is the emotion with the highest vibrational frequency and will rattle all those that operate in low frequencies. These last few months all I’m hearing is bad things about me, from people that I don’t even know, from those whom I’ve never even interacted with yet I seem to piss them off. I’ve made more enemies than friends in the last 3 months, because the NPCs don’t seem to understand the concept of living a true life, an authentic life that is devoid of back bitching and gossiping. And I do not give a fuck about what they do in their lives and don’t think that I’m hating on them, I’m just modestly trying to write about what I feel, this doesn’t mean that I hold myself superior to them, I truly don’t. I believe that we’re all equal in the eyes of God and I’m no one to establish my superiority over another, but it does seem to piss you off time to time.

After a few unfortunate events (I still consider them fortunate), I’ve come to the conclusion that a friend of mine happens to be someone else, he’s not the person who I thought he was. The moment he gets his way, his care for everything else gets dropped like a hot potato. And once again my trust was shattered, I didn’t exactly feel betrayed but I was genuinely disappointed. I didn’t think that it would happen again, I mean of course it was going to but come on, give me a bit of time to recover from the previous one at least. Well, another decent/mid friendship down the drain.

Although there is a lot bullfuckery and betrayal in my life, at the same time its filled with love and loyalty, I guess God gets his entertainment from these things, I imagine him sitting amidst the clouds with a huge bag of caramel and cheese popcorn, watching and enjoying the show.

Eventually all of it comes down to acceptance, there are a lot of things that are out of your control and overthinking about them sure isn’t gonna solve your problem, but what it will do it is tell your brain that this is the way of finding the solution, so now your brain will act like a bull that has seen red and promote the overthinking even further. Congratulations, you’re now stuck in a loop.

What you can do is have that “fuck it, we ball” mentality and accept everything that comes your way, let the emotions flow through without leaching onto them and making it a part of your personality, no one wants to be around a flaming ball of negativity. And I think I’ve gotten pretty good at that, I just know that whatever life throws at me, I’ll survive. I’ll barely have an arm and a leg left but I’ll make it through. The promise isn’t walking out unscathed, it’s walking out alive, giving you plenty opportunity to grow again, into a better human being (please don’t go down hedonistic roads or become the villain in someone else’s story).

Have faith,

Praise God.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit Jhamtani.

You need to experience everything, the positive part is that you become an open minded person and get a better understanding of things. You don’t judge people too quick and take some time to review what they’re saying before you filter them out through your moral compass and start attacking them in your mind. You become more content, like you’re actually achieving something in life, sitting home all day and doing the same bullshit over and over again is what makes you gloomy and depressed, you need to go out there and create some havoc in the city.

I’m not asking you to destroy buildings or commit felonies, but I’m asking you to build core memories for yourself, I’m asking you to live your life. I do understand that some people love routine and it’s their thing, but sometimes you need to change things up, you need to chase that adrenaline of nearly getting fucked up or getting into trouble.

A few months back, we jumped into a locked park and were playing on the slides and swings, it was a private park and we didn’t know that. A few moments later I heard the doors unlock and that shot of adrenaline into my bloodstream rewired my nervous system and we bolted out of there. The guard blowing the whistle and asking us to stop made it even better, I mean we were making a lot of noise so it was only natural for them to come find us. But every time we bring that story up, suddenly there are smiles on our faces, we all have something to look back to in times of despair.

Now imagine I hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t be able to tell it here or to anyone else and my conversations would get pretty boring. I mean, what am I gonna tell my kid once he grows up, what do I do when he asks about my lore? Although I have already done some crazy shit, I feel like I need to do more, there is always more potential for better fuck ups.

Before I stepped out into the world and started experiencing all this stuff, I sat home all day and had a very stale lifestyle, I did sports and stuff but that was the end of it. There was no spark in my life and the flame inside me had diminished. But once I left for college, the lore that I’ve created for myself in just one year has made me realize how important it is to go out there and do the most random shit ever.

My actual day starts around 10 pm when we get the crazy ideas, we don’t really think too much and just execute them. I have also been blessed with crazy friends who agree to all my dumb ideas even if there’s a risk of death, they’re usually shit scared but at least they agree.

This post isn’t just about these kinds of experiences, like nearly getting caught by the police or going to the beach at 4 am, it’s also about your relationships. It’s about the conversations you have with your friends. Sometimes I like to circle back to a few conversations I’ve had with my friends when I’m feeling low or when I don’t feel loved. I have those conversations in my back pocket anytime I need them, sometimes I have special photos that I’ve got in a folder, reviewing them makes me center myself in tough situations where I’m about to lose myself and break down completely.

These are things that I can’t explain too well because they can only be experienced, so every time you think that a plan is dumb, execute it. Because that might become your favorite memory, it feels like you’ve been reborn, the adrenaline swimming in my bloodstream makes me feel alive once again. Of course you still have to complete your daily chores and do whatever that needs to be done, but try to make time for that part of your soul that wants to go out there and live. Don’t think about society, don’t think about what they’re going to say, because everyone always has something to say. People will always be judgmental, you need to learn how to filter things out or else you will miss out on experiences.

I also agree that you should listen to your parents but there is always a limit, you should know when to stay in it and when to cross it. Sometimes their decisions are wrong, and sometimes you should follow what they say. Either way, try to do what your heart tells you to do. Once you cut out the external noise and comments, you start to understand that all the answers are within you, your gut feeling can never be wrong, so try to tune into it. Listening to yourself will take you further than following what others say. But this doesn’t mean that you become arrogant and treat yourself like God, know when to listen to and whom to listen to. Never take into consideration the judgments of losers and haters, they want to bring you to their level, just ignore it and keep doing whatever you wish to do, they hate to see you live.

One last advice, smile more. Smile as much as possible, being nonchalant isn’t going to get you anywhere in life, talk to people, learn about them and share something about yourself as well, that’s the key to living a happy life. Keep learning new things, that way you’ll stay young forever.

“Everything is a win when they goal is experience”

Have faith

Praise God.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit

I’ve got back problems and I’m chronically injured, I fight it everyday but at the same time I do complain a little, of course most of it is the consequence of my negligence but human nature is to be paradoxical, I try to stray far away from such thoughts but they do make their way in my head sometimes. It sometimes even hurts to walk, I can’t sit for long hours, at random times there are sharp cramps that feels like someone just stabbed me and twisted the knife, and sometimes all I can do is stay on the bed and wonder when this’ll come to an end.

This is just one injury, I could talk about at least 10 more, fractures, surgeries, it’s never ending and there’s no point getting into it. But I think I’m glad this happened to me, my pain tolerance has increased and I’m a much more resilient person now, in layman terms, I’ve got balls of steel now, injuries don’t scare me anymore. Football was something I was going to pursue a career in, deep down I knew I had the caliber to make it, I just knew I could work hard enough to get there, I was already at the part of 5 am training sessions and then one more in the evening, it was strenuous but it fulfilled my soul, it filled that void in me that constantly craves for more, it made me feel content.

Today as I was walking across the station, I saw a man walking on crutches. He did not have a leg, yet he was making his way through the crowd and going on about his day. And here I am complaining about these things, I have been blessed to have new boots, the fitness to still play and walk, and yet I somehow find a way to complain? It’s kind of sad to be fair. The world is ruthless, it doesn’t wait for you, time moves on and everything along with it too. I’m learning to be more grateful everyday, it’s a virtue only the greats possess, the more gratitude you show, the more the universe rewards you. But don’t do it for the rewards, do it so you can sleep well at night.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit.

Life is good when you’re out in the nature, I didn’t feel like leaving at all. I sat by the coast for 2 hours, got myself a beer and just sat down. It was around 6pm so I wanted to watch the sunset as well, all I did was sit in silence and watch the world move, if you pay attention, the water sometimes speaks to you, it tells you that everything is going to be alright.

There’s nothing that a cold breeze can’t solve.

I sat there with little grains of sand under my feet and looked at it for a while, made me realize how little we are in the grand scheme of things, and how none of it will matter in a short amount of time as we inevitably march towards our own demise. Taught me that letting go is the greatest virtue a person can possess because that’s the one thing you’ll have to do your entire life, attachment will weigh you down and stop you from becoming your best self possible.

Life is like the waves the ocean throws at the coast, they keep coming, they keep going. Things come, things go. You live, you learn. Sometimes it also teaches you about letting go, there are a lot of things we subconsciously hold onto which we should’ve let go a long time ago. No matter how much you love people, they’ll find ways to betray you, loyalty is the rarest trait I see in this world lately. Recent conversations with a friend made me realize that the one person I never spoke bad of had been passing comments for an entire year, and I never knew, happened right in front of my eyes but I could never find out, so much for offering loyalty. I don’t know what makes people do that, we knew each other and met each other everyday for the past 6 years, yet they switched sides either way, some people are just miserable inside, aren’t they? It makes you a high value person if you show loyalty, loyalty requires strength, the weak can’t possess this virtue, just like kindness, only strong people are truly kind.

Have faith

With gratitude,
Harshit.

You need to understand that the higher you wanna go in life, the more you wanna grow, the harder the decisions are going to become, and the obstacles will only keep growing, just like a video game.

Our life is nothing more than a video game, there are levels, bosses, and achievements. It is up to you whether you wanna complete it or sit down and cry about facing defeat. Everything is an experience, you’re here to experience things, not contemplate your past.

The movie whiplash is the greatest example of what I’m writing. The character goes to such extreme lengths just to become who he has always wanted to be, he gives up on everything around him, all his relationships, his friends and even dumps his girlfriend because he needed all of that time to become great, to invest it into a bigger purpose. Trust me, whatever you’re worried about right now won’t even be on your mind in the next five years, don’t even waste a minute thinking about it, use that power of imagination to imagine a better life for yourself, your thoughts shape reality.

Growing becomes easier when you’re doing it with a friend or a partner, but sooner or later there’s going to be a path where you’ll have to leave alone and outgrow the person that was with you till this part of the journey.

Sometimes hard decisions are meant to be made, the more attached you are to people, the harder it gets trying to move ahead. Your sole focus should be on yourself, I know this sounds weird but it is true, real work requires zero distraction. You need laser sharp focus, and that is usually distorted if the people around have opposing views or don’t have the same hunger as you.

Some people have a head start in life, some don’t, some have exceptional abilities and some have to work for it, nothing is fair. But the truth is, you only go as far as you really want to go. If you really want it, you’ll find a way to get it.

The problem with having people in your inner circle that don’t have the same mindset as you is that sooner or later you start adopting their habits, you start thinking ‘oh I can do this too just because they do it”. You start justifying your habits just because the person you admire or love also does it, but that just takes away your focus and hunger, it hurts the progress you have made.

Any person who has achieved great heights in this world has had to suffer being alone, the word suffer should not have been used here because it is up to you how you view the circumstance, but I’m going to use it regardless.

To achieve great things, you need to have the strength to make the right decisions, and sometimes the right decision is the hardest. But if you really want to make it, you’ll find a way to get it done. You need to learn to stay alone, not being able to stay alone is a great weakness in my eyes, you need to have the courage to be all by yourself and still thrive. If you can’t go two minutes without talking to someone then you need to introspect and think about what you’re doing in life.

The counterargument is that we’re social animals and are meant to be in groups but none of that matters when your goal is succeeding, sometimes staying in groups can make you average, and I don’t think average is your goal, is it?

You’re lucky if the people around you match your views, that way the rate of your growth actually increases. I have one other guy in my life that views the world exactly like this and I’ll always be grateful to have him, he recently swam 2 kilometers in the sea and I will always be proud of his achievements, I celebrate them like they’re my own.

On the other hand there will be a moment where you realize that some people in your life will hinder your progress, no matter how important they are to you, you have to outgrow the grass, that is the only way forward. Don’t be afraid to make such decisions, those are the ones that will separate you from the crowd.

It’ll always be hard making such decisions, you’ll contemplate things, you’ll question yourself, your moral values will step in but do not let that change your mind, you know what you need to do, just find the balls to do so.

In the Godfather Part II, the hardest part in Michael Corleone’s life is when he has to kill his own brother because he’s weak and is sabotaging Michael’s life and business, his weakness nearly resulted in the death of Michael’s family, despite all the things in between, he ordered the assassination knowing that it was the right thing to do. It wasn’t easy, although this is fiction, one can imagine themselves in his shoes and try to understand how difficult it must’ve been. But what needs to be done, needs to be done.

Do whatever you are afraid of doing, that is the path you need to walk, show some courage, show the world that you deserve what you’re asking for, walk with your head held high and be true to God and yourself, that is what matters in the end. You’ve been born to become great, not to succumb to societal norms and spend half your life chasing validation and attention on Instagram.

Become who you’ve always wanted to become.

Your life rests in your own hands, no one’s coming to save you.

Praise God

With love and gratitude,
Harshit.

They weren’t just a number in the long list of people that succumb to the lives they’re given, they change, they morph and turn into someone that has the power to change things around them.

That is what I hope to become.

I want to become someone that can put a dent into the universe, I want my name to be known without introduction. As a matter of fact, I know it is going to happen.

A friend on mine recently said that I am way too deluded and should come back to my senses and be normal, that is when I found out that not everyone is made for the top 1%.

Imagine if Mike Tyson was told that he couldn’t be the best boxer in the world because it was simply too big of a dream, imagine if Steve Jobs was told to give up on his idea to create apple and work for a normal company instead, would he have created the legacy he holds today? He isn’t alive today but his name will be remembered throughout generations, that is what being delusional gets you.

The people that ask you to stay in your line just do not have an imagination as big as yours. They don’t understand how one could think about winning a gold in the Olympics when they can barely run in local competitions.

That’s what delusion is. It requires you to step outside your box and get yourself familiar with the thought of being great. It is your thought that shapes your reality, your unconscious and subconscious determine your fate, not the universe.

If you manage to alter your state of thinking, anything that you believe in will soon become true. Belief is power, that is what separates the winners from the crowd.

Around 2 years ago, no one around me believed that I could score well in the competitive exam I was preparing for, I was only an average student and barely had average grades (I got 17/80 in a math exam in 8th grade). But there was this professor that I met, he had this belief that I could do extremely well, he believed in me. I never really understood what he saw in me, it was during a one to one conversation that he told me that I was destined to do something great. His belief was so strong that it actually turned into mine, I too started believing that I could do it.

And a few months later, I got the results for a competitive exam that I had given. I had a near 100% percentile in chemistry and my overall was 99.3 percentile. This was one of the greatest accomplishments of my life, I was never really strong academically, I was a sportsperson, this wasn’t something I thought I could do, but his faith in me helped me believe that I could, and that is what shaped my reality.

I will always be grateful to my teacher for taking me this far ahead in life, without him I don’t think that I’d be getting this degree. I think this should be enough for you to understand the power of belief.

Just by applying this to the other aspects of my life, I can accomplish anything, but is seems funny to a few people. I’m not that great of a writer right now but I know for a fact that sooner or later I’m going to write a book and it’ll be damn good, I don’t care if people read it or not, it’s getting published either way. Just like that you can speak things into existence, so what’s wrong with me believing that I’m one of the greatest writers right now? It’s just a matter of time before I am so why not believe in it right now?

Every successful person that you know was in the same spot that you are in right now, and If you’re reading this right now then that means you’re more than privileged. Some people still have to fight tooth and nail for basic necessities like food and shelter.

Most of the rich people you know today came from nothing, they barely had one meal a day and had to fight for their spot, do you know what fueled them? Belief.

Imagine if Ed Sheeran stopped working because he thought that his dream was too big and he was thinking too far ahead in time?

Deep within them they knew that they’ll make it, that they have to make it. Only a few people will understand what I’m talking about, not everyone cut out for this, this requires a different type of mentality, the average won’t understand and it’s nothing personal.

Just speaking hypothetically, even If I’m wrong, what’s wrong with imagining? What’s wrong in believing? I’m not causing any harm and neither am I starting riots or killing people, all I’m doing is imagining that I can be someone great, what’s funny about that?

The ones that think they can, and the ones that think they can’t, both are usually right.

The famous sportsmen you see today were once delusional low league players that had faith in themselves. There were many other players on the pitch along side them but only they came out on top, what was different?

It was delusion, it was their mentality, it was that fire within them that told them they could do it. The privileged ones won’t understand, the ones who are surrounded by money will rarely understand this. Only the ones who’ve fought for things will know this. I can’t expect someone who gets whatever they want at a single command to understand this, they will never know what its like to fight for things, to earn things.

I have recently noticed something while playing Hollow Knight, a metroidvania game that I’ve recently been grinding. The first time I encounter a new boss fight, I usually die in a few seconds but after repeated practice I slowly start adapting, I start to take out patterns but it only comes after dying a hundred times and going back and forth to fight it. It doesn’t come from sitting and thinking about it, it comes from actually doing it. Raw Action. And slowly but surely, I win the fight, there’s a lesson in this story.

Whoever you become will be your own responsibility to bear, you cannot blame it on the Gods because they gave you everything you needed to succeed, you have all the tools you need. Do not blame the universe for not succeeding, I’m not talking about temporary failures here, I’m talking about the long term failure that you’ll face and regret.

These are the secrets of the universe, they aren’t really a secret because all the information is available on google but they’re called secrets for a reason. Despite the information being up there, rarely a few people read and understand it, those are the ones that will put a dent into the universe.

If you actually devote yourself to something, and do it over and over again, there is NO WAY you could fail, if you actually wanted to win, you would win.

Belief is power.

Praise God.

With gratitude,
Harshit Jhamtani

Do people on this app even write anymore? Most of the notes I read are just people sending out thank you messages for a few subscribers, that they know is going to go semi viral or some random crap for engagement. This will stir up a lot of hate but it’s the truth.

On the other hand, the underrated writers are brewing up articles that could win them awards but get little to no recognition. This genuinely seems unfair to me. Most of the success we see online is not fair whatsoever. It actually hurts me when I see such good art get no appreciation.

I'm sure that the actual writers aren’t doing it for the views and likes but it does get annoying after a while. The hope within you starts to dim.

There has also been a sudden rise in the “subscribe for subscribe” shit here. Almost every third post on this app is someone new and is asking to connect with people. Now you may argue with me on this but I will stand with what I say, it is clear that those posts are for farming engagement but no one will admit it, most of them succumb to it and will post a link of their article under the note asking the person to read it, which they probably won’t and might drop a like for the sake of it.

Are people not writing authentically anymore? The app wasn’t like this a year ago, the connections we built were more genuine, more encouraging and supportive. I don’t think people read articles anymore, they’re treating this app just like any other social media app, is engagement really that important to you?

I won’t say I’m perfect and I also do spend quite a while sharing things on notes but there’s a limit to the things you do, do you really think that begging for subscribers in a subtle way is going to help you build genuine connections? If all you want is for your post to go viral then why aren’t you on twitter or instagram?

The actual artwork that deserves to go viral barely gets a few likes and the writer who spent weeks perfecting their craft see no support. Substack is going down the wrong path, it’s filled with dopamine spikes again and its turning into the exact thing we were against.

I kept this one short and wanted to send appreciation to all those who genuinely and authentically write for themselves, please do not do it for others or else you’ll see no growth. We’ve been conditioned to chase likes and views but it all changes over here.

With gratitude,
Harshit

Everyone has ways of expression, without that you become soulless. Some people choose art, singing, drama, literature and sports, they're all good in their own places.

Most of us write because we feel free, you get to share that burden of yours, you feel less alone, you know that there are others in the same boat that you are and they finally become visible to you.

Writing well requires authenticity.

It doesn't need to be perfect, it just needs to be real.

Doesn't really matter what you write about, it just needs to resonate with who you are as a person, do not write for other people or engagement. If you're doing it just to earn followers or subscribers then the authenticity is washed off.

Make sure that you write for yourself, I myself don't have a load of supporters but there are a few that read my articles consistently, and that's all that matters to me, the rest is just noise.

It doesn't matter if you have an audience or not, do it for yourself, do it because you love to do so, just stay as far as you can from external validation, all that matters is that you're happy with yourself.

Somewhere along the journey you'll find an audience that loves you for who you are what you organically write, always put yourself first and do it for you, that's how you'll grow.

Have faith,

Praise God

For the last two days that I’ve been home, I’ve trekked on the hill nearby that I used to go running to for my training sessions, I know every spot on the hill. I went there today after a few months and the nostalgia was overwhelming, but more than that, it was the sunset that was important.

The plan was spontaneous and we only went cuz we spent all our money the previous day on food, so our only option was table tennis or going up the hill. Going up there made me rethink all the decisions I’ve been making recently. I really did miss who I was when I went there more frequently.

But it flipped a switch in me.

It made me remember that I can be that person again, it motivated me to work harder and somehow had an impact o n my mindset. This is what I love about being in nature, hearing the birds chirp and feeling the pleasant wind on your face will give you a better sense of calm than anything else in the world. This gives you space to think, to unwind and give you better ideas.

It also does have biological importance but I won’t go much into detail with it, this isn’t about that. We have been biologically coded to be around nature, that is where our ancestors were most comfortable in, around rivers, on mountains and places like that.

What you need to do is get out of your house, if you’re depressed and stay home all day, you’re only going to make things worse for yourself.

The act of climbing was of course a bit tiring but that isn’t the point, the view that I got from above was all worth it, watching the sun go down while talking about life with my only few real friends left meant the world to me. They’re the realest people I’ve got in my life, we’ve been together since 8th grade and meet every few weeks to catch up on things, we don’t talk much on call or text, but when we meet, it’s as if we never really left. This is what true connection means.

Being around nature heals people, it gives you clarity, it calms down your nervous system. This should be done everyday to be honest but the chaos that life brings doesn’t really permit it, there are some days where I’m in my house for days straight, jumping from my desk to my bed and nothing else, sometimes the priority must be shifted to whatever is more important in the moment.

But still, you gotta captivate on every opportunity you find to leave the house, go meet that old friend that you’ve meaning to connect with, go alone if necessary, there is no need to be around someone to go visit a place you like. Sitting alone and watching a sunset doesn’t portray loneliness, you could enjoy your own presence too. Don’t wait for others to enjoy life, live it the way you intend to and you’ll find people who resonate with that along the way.

There is so much you learn by stepping out, it’s like you unlock a different way of thinking, recently I’d been to a waterfall and all my friends were scared to step in, but I made the effort and jumped right in, I felt the water flow on my head with such a great force and it was the best feeling of my life, the ride back home was so peaceful, filled with so much joy and the calmness within me radiated, I was happy once again, I think this is what life really is and we overcomplicate it way too much, just step out into the woods and you’ll understand what I’m talking about.

The simple act of just sitting in the grass underneath a tree is enough to rewire your entire system, it is proven that you start vibrating at the same frequency as the tree, you can learn more about a tree by being around it than by reading about it, the answers are all out there, you just have to go and look, try to be as close to nature as possible.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit.

All the movies I’ve ever watched in my life have NOTHING over this one, the build up, and the dialogues were all beyond amazing, the though put behind each and every single scene in the movie is insane, I simply had no words left after finishing it.

The movie is based on how the devil lures you over to his side by just offering you a simple choice, he won’t force you to do anything, he will just give you a taste of quick pleasure, of high success without working much for it, the easy way out. But in reality, there is a heavy cost to it.

Al Pacino, the devil, subtly keeps showing the lead actor how great life is with money, living amongst the elites and the fame that comes along with it. Why wouldn’t anyone love being rich? having fuck you money? Everyone wants it, I don’t think there’s a single person on earth that wouldn’t want financial stability, but the path you choose towards it is what matters.

The devil can’t actually force you to do anything, he’ll simply ask you whether you want it or not, at the end of the day the choice is yours, and most of the time we fail to pick the right one.

He presents to you two options, you get what you want but via two different paths. The path he offers is so beautiful, filled with pleasure and joy but he doesn’t show you the downsides to it, the one on the other hand requires a lot of determination, toil and grit and he portrays it as really tough to achieve.

We choose easy and what’s quick to come, I mean the answer really is obvious, if you’re getting it the easy way, why would you put in the work?

The path to hell is really beautiful, you’ll feel absolute bliss on the path, it’s all sunshine an rainbows but the path you should take is filled with thorns and obstacles, it’s not at all easy walking the path that is righteous, and that is why most of us fail. But the satisfaction that comes with doing it the right way is always better, you can sleep at night more peacefully, there won’t be a knot in your heart telling you that you’ve done something wrong (if you have a moral compass).

There isn’t anything wrong with failing or making mistakes, even countless times, what matters most is that you get right back up and try to do the right thing anyway.

“Fall down seven times, stand up eight”

Just because I write this does not mean I’m perfect, I too struggle with things that I can’t speak about, there are times throughout the day where I’m constantly tempted to do the wrong thing but I keep fighting, it’s a constant battle that one mustn’t give up.

At the end of the day, you still have free will, everything you do is your decision and the consequence is yours to bear. Don’t blame your shortcomings on others or on the situation in front of you, learn to accept your mistakes and move forward, everyone who judges you for doing so is foolish and listening to them makes you one too.

It might not have been your fault, but it is your responsibility, in the end, you’re going to have you save yourself and if you don’t, you can’t blame anyone.

You will be tempted all along the way, and you will sway a little but do not punish yourself for it. Make sure that you stay strong, a few setbacks can’t define you as a person and it is important to remind yourself that every day.

God rewards people that show strength and courage, God will provide for those that actually work for it, he knows everything, he sees everything so don’t complain when you don’t get what you want. If you still don’t get it despite of all the hours you’ve put it, that just means that he has something better for you, he’s protecting you from something that might give you an ego, something that might fill you with pride.

Just thinking that things will work in your favor causes it to do so, the power of your thought can sometimes be stronger than the actions you do. It’s all in your head, your beliefs give you power, take away your belief from things that take away your power and watch how easy life becomes.

I have always struggled to move on from people, whether it’s a friend or an ex of mine, they always linger in the back of my head waiting to be noticed, and eventually I do.

But ever since I found out that simply in believing that I could forget them, it became easier to do so, with time it got so easy that now I don’t even think about it and neither does it affect me.

I would hate when my perfect cup of coffee would get ruined by the thought of someone, I had to change some things and my belief was the only thing I needed to change. The more powerful your belief, the better the outcome, believe that you’re strong, believe that you can do so, and it shall happen.

Have faith,

Praise God.

With love and gratitude,
Harshit Jhamtani.

To constantly lose people, to constantly get replaced, it really does shatter your soul, it takes away the very life within you, because us humans were built for connections, we can’t really stay alone for a long time before seeping into a deep depression. But after bidding farewell so many times, some of us have just preferred to give up entirely, the ache that you feel in the center of your chest is just not worth it anymore, eventually you become numb to it all and you’re okay with whatever happens.

You lose expectations, you lose hope and that is a very sad state to be in, and unfortunately, most of us are in it right now. You might wander here and there and make temporary connections, but they’re all meaningless, but of course it is important to enjoy these moments as well. You must start living life without entanglement, it is really hard to do so, personally speaking, I tend to put my trust into people very early into the game, I don’t wanna be unfair to them and not trust them just because someone else broke it. But eventually they all do, how can every single person I meet break my trust? The last option you’ve got in your head is to accept that maybe you are the problem. That is the death of hope within you and that is where your spark diminishes.

Some people are just wired like this, they can’t commit properly, they move with their feelings, whatever feels best in the moment. They’re swayed so much by their thoughts that they won’t ever consider what it’ll do to you, because they’re too busy looking out for them. And that is why most of us turn to the path of solitude, that turmoil of emotions is too hard to handle, I just don’t have it in me to take loss anymore.

No matter who that person was, if you think they won’t hurt you, eventually they will. There will rarely be times where you find real loyal friends but I’m not considering that fact right now, not everyone is blessed enough to have found for lifers, I have but I can’t speak on it from a public point of view. It doesn’t matter if you’ve spent 1000 hours speaking to them, some people will sway around just like the waves of the sea, and you don’t deserve that in your life, you deserve peace, and to find that peace our last option is isolation until finding the right one.

The second advice that steps into play is to not get attached, but is it really possible with all the emotions you have? If you really like the person, it’ll be really tough not to get attached, and talking all the time always creates intimacy, at least on one side. All you can do is be prepared, not manifest it but be prepared. In case the worst happens, you must be able to pick yourself up, because at the end of the day everyone’s busy, your friend from across the city won’t come up at 3 am to help you out, it’s got to be you who helps yourself. These situations help you build resilience and grit, they make you stronger and smarter, don’t be afraid to go through such situations, go through it with everything you’ve got, and eventually you’ll make it out just fine, you’ll always be alright by the end of it, just make sure to say goodbye, always take a moment to do so.

“I suppose in the end, the whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye.”

But despite all of this, don’t forget to smile, it’ll all make sense sooner or later.

Praise God,

With love and gratitude,
Harshit.

I’ve been catching myself constantly thinking about the past and how they were the “good old days” but maybe it’s just a waste of time, it’s a part of growing up. It is alright when you’re with an old friend, discussing old days for a while just to have a laugh or two, but doing it all the time will make you go insane, this is not even an exaggeration. Constantly thinking about the good old days takes away the ability to appreciate the present.

“Nostalgia is a dirty liar that insists things were better than they seemed”

That might just be the key to being happy, to just focus on the present (like I haven’t been hearing that from every single person alive) and to be grateful for what you’ve got. But maybe it is that simple, the more you dwell on what was, the more you miss out on what could be, you should not hold yourself back from becoming someone new or someone better than you once were just because there is the discomfort or fear of going into the unknown.

A lot of us avoid change because of the fear of the unknown. We don’t know what’s ahead, it’s all supposed to be done one step at a time but we try to map it out right at the moment, which is what brings us anxiety. I don’t think there is a need to have control over what’s happening around you, maybe the goal is to enjoy it the way it is meant to be enjoyed, there is no need for entanglement, all you need to do is live through it, be glad it happened and move on with your life.

There will always be a new door to look forward to, trying to open doors that have been sealed will only exhaust you, spend that energy towards something else and grow instead. I understand that the memories bring us comfort but they also trap us, they take away your ability to enjoy the present, they take away the ability to create new memories. If you wanna look back, look back with no regrets, look back and turn around immediately.

Don’t spend too much time with your past self, they’ll try to pull you back, and you don’t need that. You’ve been through a lot to become who you are, and you should be proud of it, be yourself unapologetically. Don’t worry about the people you lose in the process, that’s going to happen eventually. People aren’t worth wasting a single minute over, everyone out here is working according to their own convenience, you’ll be lucky if you’ve found a true friend. I’ve seen countless friends, who I’ve trusted with my entire soul, give up on me and turn into my worst enemies. I don’t really mind though, you do what you gotta do, but just leave me out of it.

If you put too much energy on building relationships with other people, you won’t be able to build one with yourself, you gotta put yourself first, no matter what the situation is. Because at the end of the day, only a person or two is gonna stick with you through your rough patches, everyone else is going to go wherever it’s warmer, no one likes the cold.

Try not to dwell over things too much, there will 100% be a better opportunity in the future, after the storm ends there’s always a sweet reward waiting for you, and even if the reward isn’t there, at least you’ve become a better sailor, at least you’ve got yourself and that’s more than enough. You need to make sure that you’re alright. Fill up your own cup first, because the moment a draught hits, everyone is going to turn theirs away from you, that is the bitter reality of the world. Each and every one of us has been through such a situation and if you haven’t, it’s coming lol.

I sometimes end up giving myself advice through what I write, I don’t really read them much but maybe I should. Please for the love of god don’t focus on the past, enjoy what has been given to you, because the moment you’re living in right now might be a moment you miss once you’re older, you are your youngest self right now.

But every once in a while, brew yourself a cup of coffee, wind down, put your favorite song and just be happy about what you’ve been through, you’re allowed to peek a little into the past, not too much though, it’s just like an oasis. Don’t be too harsh on yourself, you’re doing what you’re supposed to do, support yourself like you’d support your best friend. Why in the world would you not choose to love yourself?

In solitude you understand a lot of things, you understand the nature of things and also the psychology of other people. Things start becoming clear to you, people aren’t worth losing your mind over, you need to save yourself, no one’s coming to save you. No one really gives a shit as long as they’re not being hurt, no one cares about you as long as they’re not at stake, so do what you gotta do, be who you wanna be, don’t be afraid to lose anyone, be afraid to lose yourself. What are you going to do if you lose yourself? Who’s gonna be your savior? I’m not asking you to be selfish, I’m asking you to care for yourself as well, be kinder towards yourself.

Praise God

With love and gratitude,
Harshit